Have you ever noticed that bullies often seem to pick on kids who are kind and confident? It’s almost like they’re trying to play a game on a see-saw. By putting someone else down, they feel like they can elevate themselves.
An estimated 1,544,000 children aged 10 to 15 years (34.9%) experienced an in-person bullying behaviour in the last year (ending March 2023).
Crime Survey for England and Wales (CSEW).
This might seem confusing, but bullies are often unhappy with themselves. They use bullying to feel better about themselves, even if it hurts someone else.
Here’s the important part: You are not the problem… Being kind and confident is a great thing. Bullies target these qualities because they’re threatened, not because there’s something wrong with you.
Here are some strategies kids can use to deal with bullies:
Stay Calm and Don’t React – Bullies often want a reaction. Taking a deep breath and staying calm can take away their power.
Use Body Language – Stand tall, make eye contact (if safe), and use a firm voice. This projects confidence and shows you won’t be intimidated.
Set Boundaries – Tell the bully to stop in a clear and firm voice. You can say, “Leave me alone” or “I don’t like you talking to me like that.”
Walk Away – If the bully continues, simply walk away and remove yourself from the situation. This shows you won’t engage in their negativity.
Find Safety – If you feel unsafe, go to a crowded area, find a trusted adult (teacher, parent), or report it to an authority figure.
Don’t Fight Back (Physically) – Fighting back can escalate the situation and make it worse. Focus on de-escalating and getting help.
Document the Bullying – If it’s safe, keep a record of the bullying (dates, times, what happened). This can be helpful if you need to report it.
Tell a Trusted Adult – Talk to a parent, teacher, counselor, or another adult you trust. They can help you develop a plan to stop the bullying and offer support.
Build a Support System – Surround yourself with positive friends who will stand up for you. Having a network of support can make you feel less alone.
Practice Confidence-Building Techniques – Techniques like positive affirmations, visualization, and relaxation exercises can help you feel more confident and empowered.
Focus on Your Strengths – Remind yourself of your strengths and positive qualities. Bullies often target insecurities, so focusing on the good in yourself can boost your self-esteem.
Remember, it’s never okay to be bullied. By using these strategies and seeking help from trusted adults, kids can take control of the situation and build resilience against bullies.
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